@SteveCagigas - I’ve never been involved in a troop in which I had a child.
I was an ASM for a few years, and I was the only adult registered with the troop who did not have a child. Consequently, when adults had disagreements, they sought to gain my support for their position, because I appeared impartial. It started almost immediately, because there were a few warring factions. I never attended a committee meeting, because I didn’t want to be involved.
I left that troop when another asked me to be SM. The second troop had its own philosophy. The committee provided almost no support for the program. It was expected that the “adult staff” (SM and ASMs) would take care of this. They just wanted to see a calendar once a year and do boards of review, a role they handled extremely well.
I inherited five ASMs, none of whom had sons in the troop. So, we were a unique group. The committee’s support consisted of signing tour permit forms. Over the course of seven plus years, ASMs left and more were recruited. I lost one when he became committee chair. Others moved away. I gained a few as they turned 18. There were 14 ASMs I can recall who took the position while I was SM. Only three had sons in the troop.
Since the committee didn’t have troop committee meetings at which troop-committee-type decisions were made, I never attended their meetings, unless they summoned me to aks me a question. They held the meetings while my troop meetings were happening. So, it was not practical to attend.
Because the “adult staff” handled many traditional committee functions, we had periodic staff meetings to keep things in order. I don’t recall ever bringing anything to a vote.