I didn’t give specifics about the situation because I was looking for a general answer, which I think I got. Also, because there really is not much out there about this, and I figured someone else may come looking for an answer, but their specific situation may be a little different.
As for this Scout, we do know his history, and he’s definitely had to deal with a few things a child shouldn’t have to deal with. In the past year that he’s been with us (we are his 3rd troop), the major behavioral incidents have been urinating on church (our charter) grounds during a meeting, in broad daylight, in front of the other Scouts (TWICE), breaking into a soda machine at the church, taking things from younger Scouts on campouts (and usually tossing them across camp or into the woods so they can’t find it easily), and the latest incident that happened hours after his SMC (and prompted this post of can we delay his BOR to ask him to think about his actions and reflect on whether he is living the Oath and Law), he shoved a Webelo from another unit and said “get out of my way you f***ing retard” because the boy happened to stop in a doorway in front of him.
Yes, his guardian is very involved, and in fact was with the Troop when this happened, and no, he doesn’t have any diagnosed conditions, such as ADD, ADHD, or ODD. We want this boy to stay in Scouting, and he wants to be there. The SM talked at length with him during his SMC about his past behavior, and he felt the Scout really understood and took it to heart, and then hours later the shoving incident happened. That’s why the committee wondered if we had the ability to ask him to take a few weeks to really reflect on this, and his past actions, and how it goes against the Oath and Law, etc.